There are yet other disturbances that brothers near
the same age ought to be warned of; they are but small
indeed at present, but they are frequent and leave a lasting grudge, such as makes them ready upon all occasions
to fret and exasperate one another, and conclude at last in
implacable hatred and malice. For, having once begun to
fall out in their sports, and to differ about little things, like
the feeding and fighting of cocks and other fowl, the exercises of children, the hunting of dogs, the racing of horses,
it comes to pass that they have no government of themselves in greater matters, nor the power to restrain a proud
and contentious humor. So the great men among the
Grecians in our time, disagreeing first about players
and musicians, afterward about the bath in Aedepsus,
and again about rooms of entertainment, from contending and opposing one another about places, and from
cutting and turning water-courses, they were grown so
fierce and mad against one another, that they were dispossessed of all their goods by a tyrant, reduced to extreme poverty, and put to very hard shifts. In a word, so
miserably were they altered from themselves, that there
was nothing of the same but their inveterate hatred remaining in them. Wherefore there is no small care to be
taken by brothers in subduing their passions and preventing quarrels about small matters, yielding rather for
peace’s sake, and taking greater pleasure in indulging than
crossing and conquering one another’s humors. For the
ancients accounted the Cadmean victory to be no other
than that between the brothers at Thebes, esteeming that
the worst and basest of victories. But you will say, Are
there not some things wherein men of mild and quiet dis
positions may have occasion to dissent from others? There
are, doubtless; but then they must take care that the main
difference be betwixt the things themselves, and that their
passions be not too much concerned. But they must
rather have a regard to justice, and as soon as they have
referred the controversy to arbitrament, immediately discharge their thoughts of it, for fear too much ruminating
leave a deep impression of it in the mind, and render it
hard to be forgotten. The Pythagoreans were imitable
for this, that, though no nearer related than by mere common discipline and education, if at any time in a passion
they broke out into opprobrious language, before the sun
set they gave one another their hands, and with them a discharge from all injuries, and so with a mutual salutation
concluded friends. For as a fever attending an inflamed
sore threatens no great danger to the body, but, if the
sore being healed the fever stays, it appears then to be a
distemper and to have some deeper cause; so, when among
brothers upon the ending of a difference all discord ceases
betwixt them, it is an argument that the cause lay in the
matter of difference only, but, if the discord survive the
decision of the controversy, it is plain that the pretended
matter served only for a false scar, drawn over on purpose
to hide the cause of an incurable wound.